Instagram Is Basically a Dating App Now — Here’s How to Act Accordingly
However, enterprising singles around the world have discovered ways to use more traditional social networking apps to bolster their love lives — and in no place is this more evident than on Instagram.
The image sharing platform has more than 800 million users who use the app at least once a month. Some of them use it to showcase their fresh kicks; some for sharing awe-inspiring cityscapes; and some for doling out hilarious memes. Others, however, are lurking in the background, ready to pounce on the perfect moment to slide into your DMs in the hope of securing a date and potentially more.
While your DM game is certainly an important part of using the app to find new dates, it’s far from the only aspect you need to consider. Check out the best tips for how to use the ‘gram to the advantage of your love life below.
There are few things worse when navigating both the virtual and physical dating landscapes than having someone come on too strong and too fast. As such, you don’t want to scare off potential paramours by liking and commenting on every single one of their posts and obsessively responding to their stories.
Subtlety is key here: you want to both communicate your interest while also leaving more to be desired. One of the most enticing aspects of Insta-as-dating-app is that it injects some mystery back into it that clear-cut dating apps eliminate: does that “like” on your selfie mean what you think it means? Or did they just like the composition? Act accordingly and use likes sparingly.
That being said, on Instagram, as in life, striking the balance between too much and too little is essential to success. While subtlety is key to attracting the interest of your IG match, being too aloof is just as much of a romance-killer on the ‘gram as it is using any other dating medium.
You can do this formulaically, for example you could like one out of every three or four things your desired date posts. Or if that sounds too dull and calculated, just limit yourself to liking the photos you really like and commenting on the ones you really are into works pretty well. In other words, don’t fake it.
With our many technological advents, the prospect of snagging a faraway hottie has never been more alluring. Nevertheless, if you really want a relationship (whether casual or otherwise) to pop off, ensuring that potential crushes live close by is essential. It’s a simple, but often ignored, tip.
“Sliding into a DM should be like knocking on a stranger’s door. You don’t just drop your pants and bang away. No, you compose yourself, tuck your shirt in, fix your hair, stand up straight and knock politely. You hold your breath as the footsteps approach, hoping they won’t open it, give you a once over and slam it in your face. Don’t be a pig.” – Photographer @atishapaulson’s new zine exposes creepy Instagram DMs.